Grieving is a Difficult Process

Grieving is a difficult process, and that process may involve a long time. There is no time limit for grief. You really don’t want to forget a loved one and, therefore, during those times and places where and when we remember, the pain of grief may come with that remembrance. Grieving is difficult because it is frequently mixed with anger. You may be angry with the person who has died because they did not go to the physician earlier or did not comply with doctor’s orders. You may be angry at God for permitting death to be a part of life’s journey. You may be angry at relatives and friends who give you strong but unsolicited advice. You may be angry at yourself for not having been a better person. My suggestions are: (1) recognize that anger is part of grief’s journey and (2) try not to take your anger out on those you live with or are close to you. I recommend journaling as a place to write your anger. A journal which no one will ever read.